I watched, or tried to watch, Nadya Suleman talk about her reasons for having fourteen children. Several things struck me that haven't been talked about.
Her tone of voice was shut-down, hushed, overly controlled. It was as if she were living her life in a big, pink, fuzzy bubble. These statements she made, that she was a responsible mother, that she could take care of all fourteen children, that she wasn't taking welfare, were all the lies she tells herself. She wasn't really speaking clearly, and she wasn't using he real voice. It was almost monotone. It gave me the creeps.
Even two working parents would have a problem paying for the needs of fourteen healthy children, never mind that many of the children have disabilities. The idea that she could afford to raise all the children is ludicrous, fantasy.
Her collagen-pumped lips bothered me, but not as much as her attitude that the children were there to fulfill the emotional hole she has. She openly admitted that she wanted a "huge" family to fill her emotional void that, she says, she thinks everyone has.
Even though she said her whole life revolved around her children, to Ms. Suleman, the fertilized eggs were her property, and she was going to "use what I had." This is her defense of having six embryos emplanted at once, instead of two or a maxiumum of three, as any ethical fertility doctor would have done.
My heart breaks for these children, who have done nothing to deserve such a self-involved mother. I hope that somehow, some way, these children get the attention and care they need, all of them. The first six as well as the second eight.
I have an ex-husband who grew up in a family of six. He bitterly complained that he rarely got enough of his parent' attention. I can only imagine what it would have been like with fourteen.
My mother grew up in a family of fourteen, and the authorities didn't feel the parents were taking care of the children, so the kids were fostered out. I'm sure it was for the best, as traumatic as it was. Back in the 30s and 40s it wasn't common for authorities to step in and take children, but in this case they did.
I can't help but think that something like that needs to happen with the Suleman children. I'm sure many people would be willing to adopt some of them.
Whether or not she retains custody of these children, Nadya Suleman needs serious psychiatric help.